Week 12

I think it would be interesting to see, during week 12, whether people's early perceptions of 'being bad' have changed and, if so, why? Do they feel less or more judgemental? Does infidelity/smoking/lying/masturbation still elicit a gut reaction or a more measured response? Just a thought ...

Infidelity/Betrayal

Food for thought after last week's session. I'm starting to feel that there's a distinct difference between infidelity and betrayal, and I'm becoming a firm follower of 'moral relativism'.

It seems that our ideas as to what constitutes infidelity can differ hugely and our reactions to it go back to the old chestnut of sex ... again.

I gave this considerable thought both before and after the session and decided that, whilst the thought of my other half bumping uglies with some other bint would sicken and dismay me, I'd feel much more hurt if he strayed because of the personal connection between him and someone else; the physical side of things would be an infidelity, but the personal would be a betrayal and would hurt more and take, for me, longer to get over.

I just wondered what opinions others might have on this subject?

http://soactout.blogspot.com/2009/02/why-do-people-smoke.html?showComment=1235592480000#c2181117935864493511

Let's Talk About Sex ...

It struck me, as I'm sure it did many others after the first session, that the thing people reacted to with the most gusto - whether it was a fit of the giggles or a chorus of 'ewww' - were the confessions that were in some way linked to sex: whether it's an illicit snog with someone you know you shouldn't be snogging, or the top-of-the-list-making 'I slept with my boyfriend's dad', the vast majority of the confessions were connected in some way with sex or sexual activity - or even the mere possibility of sexual activity.

So what I'd like to know is ... why? We're supposed to be living in an 'enlightened' age where pretty much anything goes and the wealth of information and images available on any subject, to suit all tastes and proclivities, can be had at the touch of a button or the flick of a switch. So why is it that sex still seems to bother us so much? Answers on a postcard please ...